Systemic Family Constellations Therapy was pioneered by Psychotherapist and philosopher Bert Hellinger and has become increasingly recognised as an astounding, powerful and far-reaching approach to finding lasting resolutions for issues or blocks which before had seemed beyond our reach.
WHAT IS SYSTEMIC FAMILY CONSTELLATIONS?
We are all connected to our parents, our grandparents and our great grandparents. This is called the collective field and our mind is formed by this context.
As Freud says, the unconscious mind has all the power, not the conscious mind. Your unconscious comes from your past and your family. By wanting or wishing to change something in your family system, is rejecting something in yourself and in your family. Often people come to therapy wanting to change something they do not like within themselves caused by their family.
Inner transformation doesn’t work this way. You cannot change your past, you can’t change your mother and you can’t change your father. The only thing you can do is to understand and heal from certain events which have affected your life. This is what leads to deep inner transformation.
Entanglements within a family system often present as a person carrying the burdens of others in their family. This results in a person feeling deep anger or resentment towards the family or feelings of overwhelm, helplessness or hopelessness.
The purpose of a family constellation is to resolve these entanglements, enabling a person to redefine their sense of self, letting go of any beliefs or feelings which hold them back from seeking deep fulfilment and allowing people to feel included in the family system and not excluded.
Shifting entrenched blockages
Blockages from our lineage can lead to sabotaging our relationships, issues with self-esteem and also our potential for prosperity in life. Once love can be freed from these entanglements which can sometimes date back one, two or even three generations, it becomes a force for profound healing.
By creating a living map or ‘constellation’ of ‘what is’ – which is often different from our mental pictures, family myths or agreed stories – we can begin to see and take in profoundly moving realities. Blockages are revealed and shifted, enabling you to move forward towards a resolution of your issue.
Family Constellations brings to light our deep interconnectedness with our family and leads to a deep experiential understanding of primordial love at the heart of all kinds of mental, psychosomatic and unconscious blockages. This type of work is about being connected to something that you didn’t even know about.
Some of the issues we face may seem impossible to resolve and difficult to observe as the dynamics at play can be hidden. The systemic roots of our limitations and suffering can lie in the unconscious forces of the family system. By bringing these invisible dynamics of family systems to light, it enables us to free ourselves and those we love from further pain and suffering.
Family constellations can assist with:
- Inability to achieve what we want in life
- Problems with money, business or career
- Fear of failure
- Fear of success
- Persistent behavioural symptoms
- Drug/alcohol misuse
- Eating disorders
- Accident proneness
- Self-harm and suicidal tendencies
- Persistent emotional symptoms
- Feeling alone
- Lack of motivation
- Relationship difficulties between partners, parents and children